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How to actually listen?

On 28th of October, 2020, Kenneth Sebastian released his Simple Ken's 18th episode!


I have been following Kenny's work since a long time now and I must say, he is not just a great stand-up comedian but also a man who is sane and a person whom you can listen to, not just fun and comedy always, but even his other works and really introspect about the thought process which might have occurred before he puts out some work!

So, in the episode, he was speaking about LISTENING!

Here are a few insights from his episode as well as some add-ons from my side!

People don't actually listen!


Long Pause!


Yes, They usually don't!


It is always extreme!


Either people talk too much and are really bad listeners or they feel so guilty about talking that they don't talk at all. There is rarely a middle ground.

Just because you are quiet doesn't necessarily mean that you are listening.


Actually LISTENING is when the person in front of you says something and you are not preparing an answer in your mind to speak up.

When you do this, you aren't listening but framing an answer.

It's not always about listening to someone and giving your valuable advice.

It's just that "LISTEN". "LISTENING WELL" is the thing.


There is a reason why the word listening is different from hearing.

Hearing is simply the act of perceiving sound by the ear. If you are not hearing-impaired, hearing simply happens. Listening, however, is something you consciously choose to do. Listening requires concentration so that your brain processes meaning from words and sentences.

You never hear consciously. It is just that some sound frequencies hit your ears and the process happens.

But Listening is when you are attentively trying to comprehend the words falling on your ears.

Again, not framing an answer to it, but just Listening.

It's not that you are expected to give a solution or even an answer to it,

But it is truly counter-intuitive to a conversation.


So, here is an exercise for you!


The next time you are in the situation where you have to listen, actually, pause your receptive brain and JUST LISTEN!

Happy Soul Reflections!